Don’t Expect from others, and Don’t lash out
Prerequisites of being a Muslim..
By Ayatollah Mahmoud Amjad
“This phrase (see title) is enough to make us true Muslims.
However, first and foremost, I myself am the worst and I sense that to be the case. I do not want to offer you water (i.e. tell you how to be Muslims) so that you all say how good I am. But, I (reiterate that) I am not that good. Definitely, if this were the case (that I preach to you all to show I am better) then this is to snatch your rights! When I self account, I certainly see that I am the worst. For surely, I have heard and seen great things from others, such that if I acted on those words, I would reach the throne of God.
(Moving on,) if we practice these two phrases, it suffices: don’t lash (مرنجان) and don’t expect (مرنج).
1️⃣The word مرنجان means: do not lash out. But is this possible? I have arrogance, is it possible not to lash out? I have jealousy, is it possible? We all think that silence is an easy task. Is it?!! Silence is the hardest thing, because it has a source (does not happen spontaneously). (And because I am plagued with) arrogance, jealousy, vanity, I will (inevitably) lash out (making it harder to attain silent). Yet, we (need to make a will) not to lash, (and by doing so) we will be able to reform ourselves, so that these impurities can be flushed out.
‘Do not be after annoyance by doing whatever you desire, for verily in this path we find no vice other than this’
Yes, that is, when one (follows his worldly desires, it will lead him to) not pray, not fast, to lie, backbite, slander, perform bad deeds, which all become a means of annoyance and lashing out to God, the infallibles, and humanity.
2️⃣[Secondly] the word مرنج means to not have expectations. I have expectations that whenever I enter the gathering, the attendees stand up to respect me. If they don’t stand up, I get upset. For one week, I am upset that the person did not stand up, or why so and so did not respond to my salam.
May God’s mercy be with Ayatollah Koohestani, I saw him twice. Once in Mashhad, and the second time at a hospital. He was the first person (I met) who was some light years old, yet had a heart that worked like a youth. During the times of his clerical studies, he noticed that he became depressed. He wondered why he became such. (He realized) it was because of (interaction with people when they) failed to respond to his greetings, or never even greeted him when he walked by, or sometimes they’d verbally abuse him, and etc.
So he understood that his depression was due to the love of this world. It says in narrations:
حبّ الدنيا رأس كل خطيئة
‘Love of the world is the root to every vice (or misery)’
Love of the world is the root to arrogance, vanity, and all other sins. So he visited the shrine of Imam Ali (peace be with him) and said to him: ‘take the love of this world out of me’. Later, he said that such exhilaration filled his heart which he couldn’t describe, and till the end of his life he had such a state.
So, مرنج means to not have expectations. This is indeed a difficult task. True, I won’t have expectations of others, but what about close friends? It doesn’t work. We aren’t walls to not expect. For the least part, we shouldn’t give an order of effects (i.e. do not expect from others to best of abilities). So if someone backbites us or says bad about us, (because we didn’t expect benefit from people) we should also avoid praying that God destroys them or curse them. In fact we shouldn’t do this to anybody.
Yes, we do ask God to remove his mercy from the enemies of Islam, Ahlulbayt, and the oppressors. It is intended that we do not curse the figures and individuals of the other sects, lest Shias be killed.
Going back, if we pray that God destroys someone, others would also ask the same of us. In the words of the author of ‘Sharial Islam’, we ask: oh God remove the evil from my face (i.e. existence)”.
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Prerequisites of being a Muslim..
By Ayatollah Mahmoud Amjad
“This phrase (see title) is enough to make us true Muslims.
However, first and foremost, I myself am the worst and I sense that to be the case. I do not want to offer you water (i.e. tell you how to be Muslims) so that you all say how good I am. But, I (reiterate that) I am not that good. Definitely, if this were the case (that I preach to you all to show I am better) then this is to snatch your rights! When I self account, I certainly see that I am the worst. For surely, I have heard and seen great things from others, such that if I acted on those words, I would reach the throne of God.
(Moving on,) if we practice these two phrases, it suffices: don’t lash (مرنجان) and don’t expect (مرنج).
1️⃣The word مرنجان means: do not lash out. But is this possible? I have arrogance, is it possible not to lash out? I have jealousy, is it possible? We all think that silence is an easy task. Is it?!! Silence is the hardest thing, because it has a source (does not happen spontaneously). (And because I am plagued with) arrogance, jealousy, vanity, I will (inevitably) lash out (making it harder to attain silent). Yet, we (need to make a will) not to lash, (and by doing so) we will be able to reform ourselves, so that these impurities can be flushed out.
‘Do not be after annoyance by doing whatever you desire, for verily in this path we find no vice other than this’
Yes, that is, when one (follows his worldly desires, it will lead him to) not pray, not fast, to lie, backbite, slander, perform bad deeds, which all become a means of annoyance and lashing out to God, the infallibles, and humanity.
2️⃣[Secondly] the word مرنج means to not have expectations. I have expectations that whenever I enter the gathering, the attendees stand up to respect me. If they don’t stand up, I get upset. For one week, I am upset that the person did not stand up, or why so and so did not respond to my salam.
May God’s mercy be with Ayatollah Koohestani, I saw him twice. Once in Mashhad, and the second time at a hospital. He was the first person (I met) who was some light years old, yet had a heart that worked like a youth. During the times of his clerical studies, he noticed that he became depressed. He wondered why he became such. (He realized) it was because of (interaction with people when they) failed to respond to his greetings, or never even greeted him when he walked by, or sometimes they’d verbally abuse him, and etc.
So he understood that his depression was due to the love of this world. It says in narrations:
حبّ الدنيا رأس كل خطيئة
‘Love of the world is the root to every vice (or misery)’
Love of the world is the root to arrogance, vanity, and all other sins. So he visited the shrine of Imam Ali (peace be with him) and said to him: ‘take the love of this world out of me’. Later, he said that such exhilaration filled his heart which he couldn’t describe, and till the end of his life he had such a state.
So, مرنج means to not have expectations. This is indeed a difficult task. True, I won’t have expectations of others, but what about close friends? It doesn’t work. We aren’t walls to not expect. For the least part, we shouldn’t give an order of effects (i.e. do not expect from others to best of abilities). So if someone backbites us or says bad about us, (because we didn’t expect benefit from people) we should also avoid praying that God destroys them or curse them. In fact we shouldn’t do this to anybody.
Yes, we do ask God to remove his mercy from the enemies of Islam, Ahlulbayt, and the oppressors. It is intended that we do not curse the figures and individuals of the other sects, lest Shias be killed.
Going back, if we pray that God destroys someone, others would also ask the same of us. In the words of the author of ‘Sharial Islam’, we ask: oh God remove the evil from my face (i.e. existence)”.
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