🎙 Professor AbdolHadi Emrani:
🔰“We are at war with our kids. We are not side by side, rather we are face to face! Change this way! You will surely see that your kids have motivation for everything.
🔰But unfortunately you say that they should have motivation only for works that I want. This is the problem!
🔰Mom has laid out the tablecloth and dad is sitting. If there are siblings or other members of the house then they are sitting ready to eat. Mom says: ‘Fatima, come eat food!’. (Now) look at Fatima’s response, She’s only 3 years old: ‘I don’t want to!’ ‘What?! Why not?’ ‘Because I want to watch TV. I want to play!’
🔰‘My dear, your father came. You’ve played morning till evening. Now let’s eat some food.’ ‘I don’t want to!’
🔰Go into Fatima’s head. You know what she really says? She says: ‘Don’t order me. Commanding me to eat food does not sit well with me. I’m a human, God has created me with the ability to choose.’
🔰This is a 3 year old child. Now mom’s dialogue changes: ‘Fatima!’
‘Yes.’ ‘Would you like to eat your meal with salad or yogurt?’ This is not deception! It is attention to human nature. Human wants to be associated with his own actions, even if it is to a small extent. Event if as small as choosing between salad or yogurt. But I need to have the right to choose. I’m a person too!!
🔰Tell her: ‘should I put ground meat or greens?’ She will find interest and come to the table to eat. (Of course) under the condition that she is hungry. If she is full never force her.
🔰‘Fatima, I’ve placed your meal in the kitchen, eat whenever you want.’ That is, you are the decider of your actions. This is not spoiling the kids, This is respect to the humane persona.
🔰‘Fatima do you want to eat with us now or should we wait 10 minutes Until you have finished playing?’ That is, whenever it be you have a say and right to choose. I don’t know why we crave the feeling of power: ‘Get up and eat your food, it’s getting cold!!’
She says: ‘I don’t want it.’
🔰Then she’ll bring a thousand lies. I’m full! The older kids who go to school: I have to finish my work. ‘What!!!? I told you all morning and now you want to work when we want to eat?’
🔰That is, if you (the parent) know how to command, I (your child) know how to bypass it.
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